The flirting lifestyle – "I bet you say that to all the girls"

When thinking about the subject of this article, my first thought, for some crazy unknown reason, was the now infamous interview that Hall of Fame quarterback Joe Namath did with Suzy Kolber during an NFL game ago. several years.

Clearly drunk, or “in a cast,” Broadway Joe had started the interview by commenting on New York Jets quarterback Chad Pennington’s performance.

But in response to Ms. Kolber’s follow-up question, he broke off with “I want to kiss you.” Interestingly, Suzy handled the ruckus with aplomb…even seeming to enjoy it a bit.

Now, shortly after this crazy moment happened before millions on live television, Namath has solemnly apologized for his actions on ESPN. Of course.

Here’s the thing, though. The alcohol involved here probably only served to loosen his inhibitions regarding saying such a thing on national television, and at a particularly…um…inopportune moment.

Actually SAYING IT, however, was purely his nature.

Anyone familiar with Joe Namath’s style knew deep down that he was probably just being himself. After all, he’s been running this kind of “straight game” with women off camera for over 45 years.

The guy has been known to have TONS of women around since LONG before he was the hero of Super Bowl III.

So what can you learn from a drunk soccer legend? And better yet, what can you learn from a sports reporter’s nonchalant handling of his overt flirtation?

Well, obviously, I’m 100% with you in accepting that there are a LOT of things you can learn NOT to do.

BUT… there is also a VERY KEY principle at play that is a hidden pearl of wisdom. And that’s what I want to focus on.

Simply put, if flirting is BUILT INTO YOUR PERSONALITY as part of your LIFESTYLE, then women know not to assume that their potential “rejection” wields real power.

Consider that statement for a moment, because it’s pretty heavy.

Essentially, if your HABIT is to tease women and show attraction freely, then it’s hard for a woman to REALLY know FOR SURE how significant your interest is at first, isn’t it?

And this keeps you in control of your interactions with women and acts as a very real buffer against having to deal with “rejection.”

But most men have made flirting an EXCEPTIONAL BEHAVIOR instead of a LIFESTYLE HABITS and therefore deplete themselves of male leadership power every time they interact with a woman.

Let me explain how this works against us and why it matters.

If you, like most men, tiptoe through life worried about “offending” women by showing any interest in them, then you are essentially setting yourself up to be a walking self-fulfilling prophecy.

I mean, if it’s UNUSUAL for you to show interest in a woman, every time you ACTUALLY DO IT is going to be a pretty serious deal…for both you and the woman.

You will have had to gather yourself and your words, and put it all together for the “big time.”

What does this? Naturally, it puts the woman in FULL CONTROL of the situation, and you are literally at her mercy.

She may be thinking, “Oh wow… This guy REALLY likes me. I need to come up with a serious answer here.”

And indeed, that’s where you’ll have LEDs in this scenario. You hang around, waiting to see how he reacts to you.

Granted, I may or may not give you a favorable answer. But the fact remains the same: most men treat flirting as VERY SERIOUS, and this puts women in the “defendant dock” all the time.

Ironically, she is IN CHARGE, and that is NOT where she WANTS to be in these situations.

Compare such a scenario with the Broadway Joe example above. Even in the context of a major TV mistake in the making, you could tell by Suzy Kolber’s reaction that she was giving him a “free pass” of sorts.

Granted, she’s a pro when it comes to streaming, so she can think pretty fast.

But as the conversation unfolded, you could almost FEEL her imagining the line: “Yeah, right, Joe. I bet you’ll say that to EVERY GIRLS.” And I guess about 75% of the audience was thinking the exact same thing.

That’s right. Because he actually “says that to all the girls.”

Now I am NOT going to tell you to “go and do like Joe Namath” to the extent that you get drunk and say things on TV that require apologies later. And I’m not even going to suggest a “straight game” like walking up to random women and telling them you want to kiss them, necessarily.

In fact, for real world purposes, think of “Lifestyle Flirting” more in terms of playful, fun banter.

But what I’m going to do is ask you to consider the amazing message that is conveyed when a woman utters the magic phrase: “I bet you say that to EVERY GIRLS.”

Do you think for a second that Namath gives a rat tail section if Suzy Kolber kisses him or not? Do you think he already has his girlfriend on his mind? married to her? Did you make babies with her?

That series of quick questions got more ridiculous as it went on, huh?

Simply put, if you can become a man who is COMFORTABLE with flirting as a LIFESTYLE, then rejection is OFF THE TABLE.

Instead of giving women unconditional power, your casual, even NON-SELECTIVE, attitude toward interaction with MOTOS (members of the opposite sex) puts control back in YOU.

As such, women are left mysteriously at a loss as to whether or not you would REALLY “select” her if given the chance.

You are seen as a man who appreciates ALL great women, therefore you exhibit ZERO despair or fear of loss.

When you can see flirting, or even interacting with women of ANY kind, in that light, IT CHANGES EVERYTHING.

Rather than single out women for flirting, if you can free yourself to joke around with MOST women everywhere you go, you’ll hit “critical mass” before you know it.

And it’s wild when you start to see the effects of this “Lifestyle Flirt” manifesting.

Instead of women feeling EXCLUSIVE when you flirt with them, they will feel EXCLUSIVE when you DON’T.

That’s right…the women you flirt with will no longer be in the “hot seat”. Instead, the women you will NOT want to enter.

Again, a word of caution: we’re not necessarily talking about as open-ended an approach as the Broadway Joe example. All you do here is just start conversations and interact in a fun way.

And I’m not an unreasonable guy. I can’t wait for you to “flip a switch” and make this lifestyle change overnight.

But I am going to challenge you to go beyond your comfort zone the next time you are in a social situation where you have the ability to meet new women and feel FREE to interact with any or even all of them, now realizing that THE MORE women you enjoy interacting with, the LESS you telegraph “pre-qualification” to any of them.

Try it and be surprised.

And I guess you probably don’t want to stop there.