Avoid and be happy
Couples must avoid some things in order to be happy and stay married. Marriage is not easy but a decision that the couple has made to make things work. Prevention is better than cure, so let’s take these preventive measures to stay happily married.
Avoid negative thoughts.
When you see your spouse happily chatting with a friend, jealousy may trigger you. Avoid negative thoughts that could lead to a serious estrangement from your spouse. Negativity drains the life of a marriage. Negativity withdraws love, encouragement deposits.
Avoid blowing things up
Arguments are inevitable, but overreactions kill effective communication and trust. When your spouse says you’re sorry, forgive and forget about the argument. Don’t be hard to forgive yourself for recalling previous similar arguments because when you do you are simply blowing the current argument out of proportion. Handle the argument with the appropriate wisdom, love, and understanding to maintain peace in the home.
Avoid the stifling joy
How do we strangle joy?
We strangle joy when we allow stress and anxiety to get the best of our relationship. The busyness at work and at home causes stress. We must learn to detect this and control it. Despite their busyness, they must find time to be together and enjoy each other’s company. Don’t suck the joy out of your relationship.
Avoid putting down your spouse
Words hurt more than any physical action; words are implanted in the heart, a healthy physical wound. Although I said this, I did not mean that you can physically abuse your spouse. I just wanted to say that between the two evils, words hurt more. Choose your words wisely. Avoid words that could hurt your spouse. Your goal is to build and not tear down. When you degrade your spouse, you degrade yourself and the relationship because when you got married, you did not become two, but one being. Putting your spouse down goes against your goal of building your relationship.
Avoid forgetting your anniversary
This is the common problem for married couples, especially after being married for several years. If your marriage doesn’t take place, it’s like taking each other for granted. As the years of your marriage pass, it’s easy to feel that marriage is like a business partnership. Business partnerships don’t last, so don’t treat your marriage as such. You should always reaffirm your illusion, passion and love as often as possible and make your anniversary a special event.
Avoid losing privacy
Be intentional about finding time to spend together. Married life, especially when children arrive, can become a juggling act. They are both busy building their finances and taking care of their children. In this process of trying to keep everything in order, you may drift further away from your spouse. Add to this process of earning income and caring for your children special and sacred time with your spouse. This special and sacred time with your spouse must be maintained on a daily basis. Be intentional about keeping this time and creating ways to make it special; always excites your spouse.
Avoid keeping secrets
If your spouse has hurt your feelings; Say It Avoid hiding problems or choosing not to voice complaints because this is one of the passive ways you can quietly destroy your marriage. Shutting up doesn’t solve the problem, it only makes it grow. Don’t let problems grow; talk about them early to avoid turning them into bigger problems later.