Take it back and turn on the romance: set up your time machine
Ok so she broke up with you or maybe they’re still together but the spark went out. Relationships have different stages and one of these stages is getting into a routine and getting comfortable with that routine and this can result in boredom. You identify? Relationships can definitely end due to boredom if something is not done about it. Women like romance (at least all the women I know), so to win her back and spark the romance… going back in time. That’s how:
1.Personality. Think about when you first met. Who were you back then? Were you someone with a sense of humor? Were you a confident person? What about your personality that attracted her to you? Think about how you were with her compared to how you treat her now. There is a difference? Sure, when we meet someone for the first time, we are on our best behavior treating them like gold and with the utmost respect. Why does that have to end? As I always tell my kids, “She treats people like You Also, think about how you felt about each other back then. Think about how you couldn’t go a day without talking or seeing each other. Think about how you thought of each other all the time when you weren’t together. Think about the attraction to each other. The passion. The spark. Can you go back to some of that?
2. Physical. When you met, what were you like physically? Were you a few kilos lighter, perhaps? Did you put more effort into how you dressed? What did you do with your hair? Did you put more effort into your appearance by exercising in some way (ie playing sports, going to the gym, etc.) or eating a healthier diet? Have you let yourself go? Also, what did he do? she physically resemble? Has he changed his appearance in a way that you might not like very much or that might “put you down”? Did that make you treat her differently? Maybe in a more negative way? You may need to physically accept her as she may not be willing to change and may be offended if you ask her to, especially in this fragile moment when you are trying to win her back. To get it back, you may want to make some physical changes. Maybe she mentioned a certain hairstyle that flatters you or even a certain shirt that she likes to see you wear that you never wear, or something like that of hers. Make an effort to appear desirable to her.
3. Recreate. Think about your first date with her. Okay, now, she recreates that. Ok, so let’s just say that parts of the first date were bad. Maybe leave those parts out, but recreate the good things about it. Be romantic too, do the chivalrous things that women love, that will go a long way in getting her back and of course it will spark the romance as well. Some examples are old-fashioned things like holding the door open for her, if you’re going to a restaurant, pulling her chair closer (but not too close, ouch!), opening the car door for her, etc. . Or get creative and come up with other romantic ideas to do for her. Trust me though, she will appreciate any romantic gesture, even the little things. Oh, and be sure to compliment her on how she looks, women love to hear that and she’ll especially appreciate it if you used to fail to compliment her in your relationship before. An alternative to recreating her first date is simple. Just think about the things she enjoys. What kind of food is her favorite? Or maybe there is a restaurant or type of food that she always wanted to try but she hasn’t? Your favorite types of movies of hers? Do you have some kind of favorite activity that you can do together on her date? Get the idea? Perfect!
As you can see, all of these ideas for winning her back and igniting the romance again go back to the beginning of your relationship together, otherwise known as the “honeymoon stage.” Why go back there again? Because that was the time where things were probably really exciting, happy, and you also really put the effort into the relationship, right? For a relationship to be successful, we will always have to put in the effort and add a little spice to that too!