Tantric tips for a happy Valentine’s party

You may have everything planned for Valentine’s Day … dinner, flowers, wine, and romance. But what if you could bring something extra to your Valentine’s date?

Here are some tips to add a little tantric happiness to your Valentine’s Day. Experience new levels of intimacy that you never knew imaginable!

Tip one: set an intention.

What is an intention, exactly? It is different from making a goal or a plan. Setting an intention is about giving your date additional purpose without forcing or trying to make something happen. Once you set an intention, you can let it go and allow the bliss to flow.

Try this:

Decide how you would like to appear on your date. That is, what kind of feeling would you like to experience when you are with your partner? Then choose an intention from there. Here are some examples:

• “My intention is to be fully present with my partner.”

• “My intention is to give my date all the love I can.”

• “My intention is to be playful and energetic.”

• “My intention is to experience Bliss!”

Without actively hard To make something happen, see how you feel once on your date. Are you more in tune? Are you more generous? Are you more excited? Your date is sure to pick up on it and will likely respond with the same love and affection that you are giving her.

Additional tip:

Set the intention with your date! Especially if you’ve been with your partner for a while, co-creating your experience could be very juicy. Take a few moments before your date to express your intentions. Take turns and while your partner is sharing, be quiet and really listen to what they are saying. Your partner will feel heard and heard and you will be on your way to a wonderful night!

Tip two: stare at happiness

When was the last time you really looked into your partner’s eyes? Or, if it’s a new date, how would staring take you to a new level in your connection?

Try this simple practice to discover tantric bliss:

Sit across from each other, either on the floor or in chairs. Extend your hands, left palm up and right palm down, then place your palms on your partner’s palms. Look at your partner and blink your left eye. Start looking into your partner’s left eye.

Watch your breathing and start timing your breaths; not necessarily from trying to match your partner’s breathing, but rather from allowing the breaths to naturally synchronize. Watch all the chatter that comes to mind. “What is my partner thinking?” “How long do I have to do this?” Let the thoughts pass and do this for five breaths. Then close your eyes and continue to breathe in and out together in sync.

When you’re done, open your eyes and see how you feel. Are you more relaxed? Are you more connected? Share with others …

Tip three: create a tantric candle conversation

By now you are home and in a good mood … How can you bring the next level of happiness to this intimate moment?

Try the tantric candle conversation:

First, find a candle, this is important! Sit across from each other and place the lit candle between the two of you. If you have more than one candle, great! Spread out the other candles and fill the room with light and love. Turn off all other lights so there is a simple glow. Reconnect for a moment with the gaze you learned earlier, inhaling and exhaling together.

Now is the time to share. In tantric conversation we practice both listening and conversation. They will take turns, so decide who will go first by allowing a natural feeling to emerge. Generally, one person will be called more to start than the other. As a listener, your role will be to “hold the space.” This means that you will practice simply listening to your partner without physically reacting (i.e. nodding your head) or responding in words. This may not be familiar, however, over time, you will see how wonderful it is to have space for someone.

As a speaker, start with the following: “What I love about you is …”. Then continue from there. Notice any feelings of nervousness or shyness. Talk about your true feelings and let your partner know how much you care about them. Maintain eye contact as you speak. Share three to five things you like about the other person.

After changing roles, reconnect with your left eye gaze and breathe together again. See how you feel. Share with others. Tantric bliss flows between the two of you!

With these tips, you can turn any date into a magical experience. Why not start this Valentine’s Day, or any day, to bring happiness and synchronicity to your beloved life?

Enjoy your new intimacy!