Sex and the shrewd septuagenarian Ready, Get Sex, Go!

There’s no way I’m going to quit,” says Lois, a “mumble-mumble” 70-year-old who keeps having sex until I die… and I will die if I don’t.”

The education:
It is true: time is a thief, it robs us of youth, body and virility. Conventional beliefs portray sexuality as confined to the domains of 18-40 year olds, with the idea that once someone retires from work, they also retire from sex. Think of this as some kind of weird, twisted logic, and challenge it. While the obvious may come into play (or not, for that matter), consider what’s more important to you: keeping up, or keeping up. With the first wave of baby boomers reaching their 60s, seniors make up the fastest growing segment of the US population. However, the lack of reliable information about how sexual activity and function can change with age and disease, not to mention sexually transmitted diseases, combined with taboos about talking about sex in old age, contributes to concern or even embarrassing for many older adults. “This shouldn’t be the case,” insists Paul Hammond, MFT, a relationship specialist and lifestyle coach in San Diego who specializes in senior issues. “If people are ready and willing to change outdated attitudes, they are ready and willing to make specific changes.”

we must we must improve our lust
Let’s face it: simple aging, medical conditions and treatments can interfere with function. American men spend more than a billion dollars each year on drugs to improve sexual function. Despite common problems, 38% of men and 22% of women have discussed sex with a doctor since age 50. Men were more likely to do so, perhaps because effective medications are available. Nearly 14% of men reported taking medication specifically to improve sexual function. The most common female problems include low sexual desire, vaginal lubrication difficulties, and inability to climax, and a 2007 study in the New England Journal of Medicine reported that 73 percent of women in the age group 57 to 64-year-olds and 53 percent of those 65 to 74 reported having had sex with a partner in the past year. Among people ages 75 to 85, about 36 percent were still sexually active.

B.a shy?

Lose the lard wear
Are you a walking sighting? Really? No Silly Routines: Although Oprah claimed that her personality was not in her thighs, if she needs to be downsized, she misses the lies and alibis. “My husband left me after 20 years,” laments Georgia, a New York native who admitted “letting me go… I bought into the stereotype that love is love and believed my appearance didn’t matter. I believed my husband”. he still loved me’, but I was unaware of the fact that he was no longer attracted to me. By the time I realized it, it was already too late. He and his little boy in his 20s are expecting their first child any day now. now.” Truly, health is wealth, especially in the bedroom. For both men and women, people who rated their health as poor were less likely to be sexually active and more likely to report sexual problems. Overall, 38 % of men in the study and 22% of women reported ever discussing sex with their doctor after age 50.

So this one is obvious. Get out of boredom and into the bedroom: Vogue may never get you, but you owe it to yourself and any potential partners to take care of yourself. Look in the mirror and be objective. With the plethora of lotions, potions, accessories, documents, and paraphernalia that didn’t exist a generation ago, it’s readily available. Instead of being a bunch of idiots, take off your underwear and get off that couch and get rid of that bag!!

go for the bold
“Where in the world could I find someone?” asks a genuinely stunned Lewis, a 72-year-old widower who “hasn’t dated anyone in 52 years and doesn’t have a clue where to start.” The retired butcher from St. Paul married her high school sweetheart at age 19 and recently lost her to cancer. “And besides,” he laments himself, “at my age, where would I even look?” With that attitude, it’s time to drop the naysayers and be a storyteller: “There are plenty of paths open to everyone these days,” says Linda Lewis, a Las Vegas matchmaker who specializes in senior issues. “A little social media may be all you need. Be careful and give it a try!”

Companion Destiny
You don’t have to lock yourself away with someone forever, but a little company can work wonders. In case you haven’t read the recent statistics, loneliness can make even the most physically healthy older adult work fast. The Association for the Promotion of Retirees estimates that 15.4 percent of men and women over 50 are divorced, 6.25 percent have never been married, and 4.4 percent are widowed. In fact, residents of assisted living centers and such facilities have access to such features as a recreational therapist on staff; I mean, practically 24/7 camaraderie: coffee clatches, bingo, you know. What are the effects of chronic loneliness? According to recent research, chronic loneliness is a serious, life-threatening condition. It has been empirically correlated with increased cancer risk by at least one study, especially for those who hide their loneliness from the outside world, and is also associated with increased risk of stroke and cardiovascular disease. Loneliness has been directly correlated with depression and is a high risk factor for suicide, alcoholism, and substance abuse. Now we wouldn’t want that, would we? So look outside your

The magic potion to restore HE-Motion?
So what do you think? Men reported erectile dysfunction as the most common problem, with 37% reporting some level of difficulty achieving an erection. Of all the men in the study, 14% were taking some form of medication for sexual function.

A representative sample of 3,005 US adults ages 57 to 85 (men and women) found that sexual activity varied by age:

• 73% of Americans ages 57 to 64 reported being sexually active
• 53% of people ages 65 to 74 reported being sexually active.

For both men and women, people who rated their health as poor were less likely to be sexually active and more likely to report sexual problems. Overall, 38% of men in the study and 22% of women reported ever discussing sex with their doctor after age 50, and: Women reported less sexual activity than men, perhaps due to hope shortest life of men; that is, there are fewer men for sex in the older age groups.

But wait: there is hope and help. There are numerous possibilities:

• herbal remedies
• Acupuncture
• acupressure
• Meditation/Yoga
• activities to reduce stress
• working out
• pharmaceutical products

AND FINALLY:
GIVE HIM A GOOD BED!

A consultation with your health care provider can help you get back on track and back in bed!

Get Bedder and Bedder

the joys of toys
Do you feel funny and shy? There is a plethora of pleasures waiting for you and your partner, so why hesitate? If it’s consensual, try it. According to recent statistics, older people make up a much larger population of gamers in the world of toys. Let’s listen to it for cheers!

No more excuses! Start living and loving! Make it a point for:

• Make an appointment with your health care provider for a complete physical exam.
• Discuss all medications you currently use with your health care provider. Some may impede your ability to perform.
• Maintain a healthy weight (this should be obvious).
• Watch your diet (see above).
• Discuss the possibility of medications to enhance or restore libido.
• Consider sexual enhancements (again, see above)
• Consider social networking sites.

So have fun and start living!