Ways to Prove You’re Real on Myspace (Part 1)
We’ve all received emails from people on Myspace or other online dating websites asking simple, direct questions…
“Are you real?”
“Do you really look like your photos?”
“Are you really like you say in your profile?”
I have been getting more and more of these emails from my female radio show subscribers constantly complaining about receiving emails from guys like this. These women get offended and angry, and I know many women who have responded to me like this!
Honestly, you shouldn’t. Because you, not the people responding to you, are putting that doubt, mistrust, misconception, and too-good-to-be-true thinking into their little heads. Honestly, this is one of the first things I ask many times online; I have been royally burned many times by dishonest and twisted women who are pathological liars.
And spawns of the devil!
Well, I don’t officially know that they were devilspawn, just guessing!
Many websites, especially Myspace, make this not the case. You can do many things to reassure people that you really see yourself the way your images are presented, and that the way you really think and act is really God’s honest truth.
Over the past two and a half years I have been on more online dating sites than anyone else in the world researching over 35 different online dating and social networking sites. I have compiled a list of 7 things you can do on Myspace or other online dating sites to prove that you are real.
Some dating sites don’t allow you to do some of the things I’m suggesting, which is why most of this list is aimed specifically at Myspace profiles.
Step 1
Have some non-professional photos of yourself doing things you like, photos of your family, friends, or pets in your main photo area. First of all, I need to make this point clear: you should definitely have professional photos of yourself online!
I feel like if you’re serious about promoting online to find great new people to hang out with or meet, then you always want to do your best and look your best.
And that is not superficial; that’s just common sense. Regardless of what you think, believe or feel. Appearance matters a lot to people, and sex sells in this society!
You can bury your head in the sand, pout, whine, moan, moan, whine, curse or even go through the mail and kill people (Just make sure he’s not in that part of town when you do that, that’s fine!) say how unfair it is, join a cult, shave all your hair, go goth or whatever you want to do or say to deal with your issues about society and the way the world is regarding physical beauty.
But that’s the way it is and always will be, I imagine. It’s been that way since the caveman days, and not much has changed since then! They have even scientifically proven that people actually think that the most attractive people are generally smarter than people who are not as physically attractive!
I said some professional photos, not all, big difference. People want to see the real you, blemishes and all. I got news flash, you’re not perfect and you never will be, so stop trying to give the world the impression that you are physically perfect!
When all you have (not a few) are perfect professional photos of yourself on your profile, other people see you as extremely insecure, self-absorbed, and people usually think you’re using fake photos of someone else!
No real self-respecting man or woman wants to be with a bimbo or trophy mimbo (male model/airhead bodybuilder!) who is so obsessed with their physical appearance, their image, and themselves. The reason being is simple math really.
If you put 100% of your time, energy, mind and heart into yourself, your image and your physical appearance. Guess what… You have 0% of yourself to give to another person or accept from another person!! Unless, of course, the other person is exactly like that, then they’re a “shallow as a mud puddle” perfect match.
I have been burned many times. Trust me, great lighting, makeup, and a great photographer can make a dog look like Pamela Anderson! Be honest about what it looks like, and just post at least a few non-professional photos, okay?
Step 2
Write a meaningful and thoughtful profile about yourself, likes, dislikes, loves, hopes, aspirations, dreams, what turns you on, what turns you off, etc.
I’ve seen models of anorexia meatier than most people’s profiles and what they write or don’t write about themselves online! Do you want to know why most people don’t say rubbish on their profiles? Shhh…it’s a secret.
Because they have nothing or almost nothing to say; they do not know who they are or what they want for themselves and others. They have very little between their ears, so they release their glamor shots and wait for the same cookie-cutter, dime, uncontrollably drooling, unoriginal person all over the world to make sexual comments and comments based solely on his physique. Photos.
They have very little else to offer a person, so all they can do is put as many photos as they can and write almost nothing on their profiles. This obviously feeds and strokes their huge egos which are the size of P.Diddy, Paris Hilton, Donald Trump, Shaquille O’Neil and all the rap artists in the world put together!
Keep your eyes peeled for the second part of this article with steps 3-7.