I did the right thing?

Abigail called to book a session, but after talking with her for a few minutes, I realized that what she needed was something that I wasn’t sure I could give her. She needed someone in spirit to tell her that she had made the right decision, which would take a weight of guilt off her shoulders. I told Abigail that I couldn’t promise that the spirit she wanted to talk to would show up at her session; what’s more, she couldn’t guarantee that this spirit would tell her what she wanted to hear. During a session, the spirit is in charge: I am just the messenger. Abigail paused for a moment, then said, “This is about my mother. I need to know if she’s mad at me for what I did.”

“Please! Don’t tell me anymore,” I told him. “I prefer not to hear from a client when he comes to see me.”

So I felt that something else was going on here. I listened to my inner voice and my guides told me that Abigail was not going to be a client. I put my agenda aside and, intrigued, focused on Abigail’s voice to see what she could intuit her.

I did not feel anything. Not even a brick wall, which I sometimes feel if someone hesitates to open me. But Abigail didn’t hesitate, she needed to talk.

His mother had died of a heart attack three days ago, he said. The doctors were surprised, because a few weeks ago during a regular check-up, the 85-year-old woman seemed as healthy as an ox. But for some reason, her heart had stopped. At the hospital, her heart revived, but she beat irregularly and weakly. The doctors told Abigail that they wanted to put her mother on life support while they tried to figure out what was wrong. Life support was supposed to be a temporary measure.

“It was my decision to put her on life support, just until the tests were finished,” Abigail said, sobbing softly. “But she never recovered enough to breathe on her own, and when her organs began to shut down, I had to make the decision to turn off life support and watch her take her last breath. I can’t help but feel guilty for putting her on In the first place, and I wonder if I hadn’t done that, would I still be alive today? My mother was my best friend. I need to know what she was thinking as she was dying. Do you blame me?

I tried to tune in to the spirit of Abigail’s mother, but I couldn’t feel anything. But this is not uncommon for some people who had Alzheimer’s disease or who passed into the spirit very recently. If they had been sick for a while and passed away with low energy, it often takes a bit of time on the other side to get their energy back again.

“Abigail, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss,” I told her. “But please look at his intention to use life support. He wanted to help her mother. It was a decision made with love and hope.”

“Yes, but it didn’t work!”

No one knows when it’s our time to move on, I kindly explained and then told a story.

My husband’s father died very suddenly. He collapsed in the morning and was rushed to the hospital. Doctors found an aneurysm in his brain, and as they huddled to plan how to remove it, it burst and he was put on life support. The machines kept him alive. Doctors asked his wife – they had been married for about 45 years – if they should take him off life support. Since everything had happened so quickly, she was bewildered and unable to make a decision.

That night, lying by her bed, she had a dream. Her husband approached her and said, “Let me go.” She woke up, startled; she had to make a painful decision, but it was her wish. She kept him on life support for only a few hours, so relatives could visit and say goodbye to her. She then stayed while the doctors and technicians disconnected the machines. And to this day, the incident occurring 10 years ago, she occasionally wonders if she should have kept him alive a little longer. Would she have recovered herself? Could a miracle have happened? And then she realizes, consoling herself with her religious background, that no one knows the future, neither God’s will, nor human chance. We can only do the right thing when all we have to give is courage and compassion.

“Maybe,” I said to Abigail, “putting your mom on life support was a lesson for you too, just like it was for my mother-in-law. Maybe your mom took this situation as a way to ‘come home.’ In your spirit form, you will become much stronger. Know that your mother will be well and free from any health problems. And take some time for yourself. Mourn your loss. Believe me, time will help heal your sadness. talk to me, then wait about six months.But who knows, you may know about her yourself!

That was a year ago. I never heard from Abigail again, but I hope she has found peace. However, I have a feeling that the spirit of her mother is there to comfort her.