Is parent training for you?
Parents looking for coaching can certainly meet their coaches face to face. I highly recommend at least an initial personal meeting, if possible. But that is not necessary for the coaching relationship to be effective. Listening attentively, responding attentively, and inquiring appreciatively would be the cornerstones of the parenting conversation. Through speech and dialogue many things happen. There is certainly a legitimate intimacy that develops through these “ear wire connections.” It’s just a deep understanding based on a high level of good trust and also respect.
Most moms and dads love the idea of not having to go somewhere, organizing vehicles and childcare, and finding time in between active schedules to help “fit in” with their training . When this happens, too much of coaching becomes “just another thing to do” and quickly loses its appeal as well. My coaching clients certainly appreciate simple phone conversations. One of the clients recently reported to me, “It’s genuinely convenient, the least disruptive way I can think of to be able to see the support I’d like. For a person under pressure, telephone counseling can be the least chemical pressure.” Along with So why put stress on parents without a dodgy company? Parents are excited by the prospect of having some kind of training conversation at night when the kids are sleeping, while having a relaxed cup of tea or coffee, or in the middle of the day at work when all their co-workers are usually out for lunch . . Young mothers are very fond of afternoon consultations while their own babies are sleeping. They put their foot up, take a few deep breaths, and then feel recharged and ready to go after talking with their coach. I know a mom who started taking a hot bath in the bathroom through training talks!
Almost every stage will take one that can help four instruction sessions in some training classes once a week lasting a period of three to four months. Similarly, parents can value the method they initiate and came to understand where in life systems, such as families, many changes will occur every time they are properly planted and nurtured after a few years.
Before the coach and parent begin to discuss options for help with their child’s habits (we often notice that the routine has changed for the better at this stage because the mother at this stage responds much more authentically and that can help your children’s needs), most of us start at the Dream level. Here, most of us ask her to imagine a perfect day, in the event that her son showed up and did what the women wanted. What would not include? What wouldn’t they feel included? Often during the Dream level, a parent may have an unforeseen idea. This type of mother realizes that on her ideal day she would have several short tea breaks to relax. She understands that she is not giving herself the necessary breaks, and that she is constantly exhausted, and wishes that the coach could help her find ways to make this happen. In living systems there is often surprising growth and sometimes some uncertainty. The parent along with the coach can’t be sure what exact issues will come up, but simply because they work together, other situations usually come up. The fact is that parents want to change beyond the original challenge with which the training began.